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How NOT to date a narcissist

When dating, it's essential to be aware of the signs of narcissistic behaviour and to take steps to protect yourself. Here are some tips on how to avoid dating a narcissist:

  1. Educate yourself: Learn about the traits and behaviours associated with narcissism. Understanding the red flags can help you spot potential narcissistic individuals early on.

  2. Take your time: Avoid rushing into a relationship. Narcissists can be charming and charismatic initially, so giving yourself enough time to get to know the person and observe their behaviour over an extended period is essential.

  3. Observe their behaviour: How your date treats others, including waitstaff, friends, or family members. Narcissists often lack empathy, disrespect, or display a sense of entitlement towards others.

  4. Trust your intuition: If something feels off or you have concerns about the person you're dating, trust your gut instincts. Don't ignore any warning signs or dismiss your own feelings.

  5. Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries and communicate your needs and expectations early in the relationship. Narcissists tend to push boundaries and may try to manipulate or control you. Stick to your boundaries and see how they respond.

  6. Look for empathy and reciprocity: Healthy relationships require empathy and mutual support. Pay attention to whether your date shows genuine interest in your feelings, experiences, and needs. Narcissists often lack empathy and may be more focused on themselves.

  7. Seek outside perspectives: Share your dating experiences with friends or family members you trust. They may offer valuable insights and help you see potential red flags that you might have missed.

  8. Don't ignore criticism or concerns from others: If multiple people express concerns about your date's behaviour or personality, take their feedback seriously. It's important to consider different perspectives.

  9. Take it slow with sharing personal information: Be cautious about sharing too many personal details or vulnerabilities early in the relationship. Narcissists can later exploit this information for their own gain or to manipulate you.

  10. Prioritise self-care: Focus on building your self-esteem and self-worth. When you have a strong sense of self, it becomes easier to recognize and avoid toxic relationships.

Remember, no one is immune to falling for a narcissist, but by being aware and taking these precautions, you can increase your chances of avoiding them in your dating life. If you suspect you're already in a relationship with a narcissist, consider seeking support from a therapist or counsellor who can provide guidance and help you navigate the situation.

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